Embrace & embody the full spectrum of what it means to walk through the world as a woman – in every area of your life
Join a global web of women devoted to embodied wholeness and ‘doing sisterhood differently’
I am a woman who used to believe I didn’t belong in groups of women.
I never felt ‘feminine enough.’ But, at the same time, I was scared of being ‘too feminine’ & not being taken seriously. I laughed too loud, I talked too much, I ate all the wrong foods, and putting on lipstick gave me panic attacks!
For years, I felt caught in a tug-of-war…
- I craved attention, and was afraid of attention because it didn’t feel safe.
- I knew I had big things to offer the world, and felt scared that others might judge me for my grand ambitions.
- I loved the quiet, simple life AND the wild all-night underground dance scene in San Francisco.
- Was I ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’?
- Was I too purpose-driven, or not enough?
- Should I be self-reliant or ask for support?
I wanted all of it, but I thought I had to choose.
I lived too many years thinking I was the wrong kind of person and the wrong kind of woman.
And over the past 20 years, I’ve worked with countless women who’ve been held back by some version of these same unconscious beliefs – that only certain parts of you are acceptable in order to fit in – which leads to never feeling like you fully belong anywhere.
A place where everyone can share exactly who they are, what they need, and where they struggle and be supported, held and guided as needed.
An impeccably facilitated group to explore and deepen our own growth and learnings about how we are in relationship with ourselves, our partners and the world.
A place not to fix what’s wrong, but to share in the idea of what’s possible.”
“There are many systems built against us as women, but our lives don’t need to be determined by the internal and external circumstances these systems create.”
— Kendra Cunov
For centuries, if a woman deviated from societal norms around female pleasure, purpose, and power — she was silenced.
It’s no wonder…
- We don’t feel safe to authentically feel and express our pleasure for fear of the way people will respond to us.
- We’re unsure of what our purpose is, or afraid of the judgment that might come from others if we fully step into it.
- We shy away from our power because power has been wielded for centuries in such threatening and destructive ways.
We think staying small keeps us safe.
The truth is…
Engaging with pleasure, purpose & power — consciously & through our bodies — is directly responsible for our sense of safety, meaning, fulfillment, and joy in life.
The truth is that pleasure, purpose and power are the three areas of our lives that are most crucial for the full expression of our essence in the world.
The truth is that pleasure, purpose & power are not luxuries to be dabbled in by those with the privilege of enough free time, money & resources.
The truth is, that in order for humans to have any chance of changing the world for the better, women must become fiercely devoted to pleasure, purpose & power — in a living, breathing way.
When these channels are flowing freely, they guide us as whole beings on the earth — creating happier people, healthier families, and better societies for us all.
As a woman…
To embody pleasure, live your purpose, and know your power is a revolutionary act.
…which is why I created The Collective.
“Every woman has to be part of something like The Collective … A sacred and safe space for sisterhood, where there is space for all our wildness and all of our wisdom that lies within our bodies. Kendra facilitates magnificently – in her teachings, and also by sharing her life with us — how to navigate all of our currents.”
“The Collective is a home and a community that you deeply yearn for and which you didn’t know you wanted/needed in your life. It is the type of community of women that feels rare, the type of community that honors and begs for your whole self, now, and as you evolve and change.
I would say that the women in the Collective (including Kendra) offer through their own experiences so much learning and inquiry into my own experience, that I don’t know how I got this far without a community like this.
It feels like the thing that has been missing all of my life, these types of relationships with other women.”
“Thank you for curating this community and holding the vision for a space that feels like the truth of how women can and do show up for each other. It is something that I feel has been culturally lacking in my life and which feels deeply nourishing to me.”
We can’t predict big life experiences, or the support we will want & need between those big life events.
One woman might be creating the partnership of her dreams and another might be going through the death of a parent, while many are simply in the midst of daily life that already takes so much from us.
“I can’t tell you how much I felt caught by the women in The Collective during one of the hardest periods of my life. That is priceless. And now I have some of the closest friendships with women I’ve ever had that nourish me in all the ways I long to be nourished in friendship.” -AC
In The Collective…
You can never be too big, too tender, too messy, or too powerful.
The Collective is unlike any other community of women you’ve ever experienced.
But The Collective isn’t about fitting in.
The Collective is a place where you BELONG.
The Collective is a place where you can talk about anything.
A place to whine, vent, celebrate, cry, feel joy, be needy.
A place to celebrate successes, wins, and courageous risks.
A place to lean into aspects of yourself you didn’t know existed.
A place to birth new ideas, ways of being, to live into your full potential.
The Collective is a place that holds all of who you are.
“It’s a web of women like you’ve never met before. I have always been uncomfortable, uneasy, and unsure of women’s groups before. The Collective has changed that for me.”
“One of the best parts of The Collective is continually allowing myself to be among the women, not trying to ‘fit in’…”
What makes The Collective different from other coaching programs?
You join a program… and then life happens.
You and your partner move across the country for a new opportunity. Or you are faced with a challenging medical situation. Family ‘drama’ rears its head.
It can feel awkward to talk about what’s going on in your personal life. Or you might feel pressured to “keep up” with everyone else, even though that’s not what you need right now.
Your journey within The Collective is deeply personal and tailored to YOU.
You can never be ‘behind.’ You never need to ‘catch up.’
Unlike other coaching programs, The Collective is a place to bring all of who you are — no matter what you’re going through or what you’re working on.
In The Collective we consciously, compassionately, and creatively embrace & embody the full spectrum of what it means to walk through the world as a woman – in every area of your life:
Relationship & Intimacy
Self-Love
Work, Business & Career
Sexuality
Pleasure, Purpose, & Power
Feminine Expression & Masculine Structure
Family
Spirituality
Authentic Living
In The Collective you will:
- Learn how to shift from competition to collaboration with other women.
- Receive regular coaching, support & practices tailored to you & your life.
- Enter into a space to reveal & be witnessed — with deep & non-judgmental listening — as well as to witness other women in their own powerful process.
- Gain practical tools to apply immediately, that will shift how you experience your life — from that of a burden into a sacred & heart-felt expression.
- Learn how deeply normal, similar & human all of us women are — across age, race & cultural differences.
There’s an African Proverb that says, “If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far go together,” and I would add, “if you want to go deep, go together.”
So… what do members of The Collective get?
Coaching + Tools & Practices + Community = Growth
- 2 Live Group Calls each month. Dive deep into how the current themes apply to your specific life experience, receive live coaching from Kendra, and learn from others on these calls.
- 4 Seasonal Deep Dive Sessions. Each quarter, we’ll gather virtually for a seasonal deep dive session. Kendra will lead you through a guided process to reflect on the previous season and clarify what you want to create in the upcoming season, as well as embodiment practices, and coaching. These sessions typically align with the Fall Equinox, Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, and Summer Solstice.
- Private Podcast Feed. Easily listen to call recordings while you’re on-the-go. New “episodes” are automatically available right inside your favorite podcast app, like Apple Podcasts or Google Podcasts.
- Lunar Cycle reflection tools for powerful growth, including New & Full Moon practices to connect you to our natural cycles and seasonal rhythms.
- Weekly Guided Inquiry. Stay grounded with weekly guided inquiry prompts.
- A wise council of women to check in with. Immerse yourself inside our online community forum, with other women dedicated to transforming their lives from the inside out by connecting, sharing, and learning from the experiences of others.
- Intention-Setting and Completion Homework to set you up for success and support your full integration of the transformations you experience.
- Mentorship from long-term students & dedicated practitioners.
- Member Site. A virtual hub that holds all call recordings, teachings, practice videos and resources for easy access anytime.
- Bonus content including tools, practices and teachings created specifically for YOU. Kendra will be with you every step of the journey, responding regularly in the Community Forum & creating content in response to your specific & unique inquiries throughout the process.
Your Collective membership also includes:
Pleasure. Purpose. Power
Kendra’s complete Pleasure.Purpose.Power program. This program is 20 years of training, research, study, teaching, and personal practice distilled down to 12 weeks of the essential lessons and practices you need to walk as a whole woman in the modern world. This program is now only available as part of The Collective. ($1111 value)
Relationship By Design Fundamentals
You’ll learn the fundamental building blocks that are essential to create thriving, fulfilling relationships within your family, workplace, friendships and intimate life. This program is now only available as part of The Collective. ($777 value)
A Library of Resources, Teaching, and Practices
Get access to Kendra’s favorite books, audios, and downloads from the resource library, along with her best teachings and practices in both video and blog format. These include practices for self-awareness, energetic clarity, embodied expression, as well as teachings from past events, and more!
“{As a multi-year member,} what has me stay is the genuine-ness of the women. I am incredibly interested in how they navigate their lives, how we support each other, and the wisdom of the women here is profound! It feels like having access to a real-time, live ‘How To Be a Woman’ users manual.” — JL
My story
When I was a little girl, I had a strong connection to pleasure through the sense of awe I felt for all of Life. I was blessed to grow up surrounded by nature: the sound of birds, the smells of the seasons changing, the beauty of abundant wildflowers in spring, the feel of the wind on my skin — these were my constant companions as a child. Unfortunately, the people where we lived weren’t safe. I saw how other young girl’s innocent displays of sensuality were commodified in inappropriate ways, so I developed a fear of pleasure and sexual expression. My mother also had a classically second wave feminist view of women and power, in that she very much embraced the idea of women being independent. While I value the strength she imparted on me, and see the value in being capable, she also imparted a defiant guardedness that left me defended and alone, not knowing how to ask for or receive support.
In my early 20’s I entered the world of exploratory sexuality and polarity teachings. Much of what I encountered expanded my world, but I also found limitations in the realm of The Feminine being taught by men. In this world I discovered I could let go and be adored, but I was also criticized for my strong opinions and clear sense of self as ‘unfeminine’.
I craved attention, and was afraid of attention; I knew I had big things to offer the world, and felt scared that others might judge me for my grand ambitions; I loved the quiet, simple life AND the wild all-night underground dance scene in San Francisco. I wanted all of it, but I thought I had to choose.
For years I felt caught in a tug-of-war, trying to determine: Was I ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’? Was I too purpose-driven, or not enough? Where did my true power lie?
What I discovered through seeking and learning, through trial and error, through falling in love and having my heart broken, and ultimately through becoming a mother, the dissolution of my marriage, and losing everything I always thought I wanted — was that Pleasure, Purpose, and Power are within me, can never be taken from me, and are parts of me that are dependent on no external permission.
This is what I want to offer you: True Freedom.
“Everything Kendra teaches is gold. This program will blow your mind in the best possible way.” —Jamie Jenson
Tell me more about what a year inside the Collective looks like…
You can never be ‘behind.’ You never need to ‘catch up.’ And there is no one ‘right’ way to engage in The Collective.
That said, we do have a gentle seasonal arc for the content and curriculum of The Collective. While we may be exploring specific curriculum or themes on a call, members are always welcome to come to all calls and can bring whatever questions and inquiries are most relevant in your life. (Even if you might think it’s “off topic”.)
There are quarterly, monthly, weekly, and daily opportunities for support.
Each quarter, we have a Seasonal Deep Dive where Kendra will lead you through a guided process to reflect on the previous season and clarify what you want to create in the upcoming season. These sessions typically align with the Fall Equinox, Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, and Summer Solstice.
Each month, we have 2 Live Calls where you’ll have the opportunity to be coached by Kendra, participate in embodiment practices, and connect with other members.
Each week, we have Weekly Reflection prompts. These are delivered via email and as an interactive discussion thread within the Community Forum.
At any time, you can access the Community Forum to ask for support, celebrate a win, and connect with other members of The Collective. You also have 24/7 access to a robust Member Site filled with guided curriculum, recommended practices, call archives, and more — across a wide range of topics.
Kendra will guide The Collective through different themes over the course of the year, but you can always “choose your own adventure” and explore past topics and teachings inside our growing archive.
What are some of the themes you’ve covered during “Integration”?
- Authentic Radiance
- Bad Reputation
- Balance and Alignment
- Belonging
- Boundaries and Clarity
- Boundaries and Desire
- Breaking Spells
- Come Home to Go Big
- Container
- Foundation and Stability
- Planting Seeds and Intentions
- (Re)Birth
- Setting Intention – Through
- Embodied Desire & Devotion
- Stepping Powerfully Into the New Year
- Tending with Tenderness
- The Power of The Spider Queen
- The Wisdom of Your Body
- Wholeness and Fullness
(You’ll have access to all of these as soon as you join!)
How do I know if The Collective is right for me?
You may want a place like The Collective in your life if…
- You ‘hold’ so much for the people in your life, but don’t receive the ‘holding’ you need. You are ready to not have to do it all alone.
- You may have felt like you didn’t fit in with other groups of women, but you’re ready to shift that. You want to cultivate deeper connections.
- You believe your body holds wisdom even if you’re not sure how to access it (yet).
- You have a wild (and possibly ‘unreasonable’) vision for your life and the world, and are ready to be fully supported in that vision.
- You believe in honoring your natural cycles and seasonal rhythms (even if you haven’t always know how to).
- You want to feel fully expressed as a woman and embody your feminine expression, but you’re not quite sure how.
- You don’t know what your purpose is, you fear you might not have one, or you’re afraid to fully step into it because of the judgments of others or the changes it might require you to make in your life.
- You want to feel empowered — to set boundaries, tap into your truth, and make confident decisions about your life.
- You want to know how to feel true pleasure in your body.
- Your life feels like it’s missing the vibrancy you deeply desire, and you’re not sure what’s blocking it. You want to feel on fire for life!
- You welcome diversity, stand for equality and care about kindness.
- You’re ready & willing to let go of being ‘good’ in order to be YOU.
The Collective is a place for all womxn-identified humans, including transgender, from all walks of life.
We have had women in their 20s & in their 70s. Gay, straight & bi women. Married women. Single women. And women in ‘non-traditional’ relationships.
Women from all over the USA, as well as women from Europe, South America & Australia.
There are many mothers in The Collective, and women who have no desire to become mothers.
This space not only accepts, but welcomes, invites & celebrates all of you!!
More Benefits Of Joining The Collective
- Connection with a global community of deep, powerful, devoted (as well as sassy, sexy & playful) women (*ahem* just like YOU)
- Private classes with guest teachers: Women experts in their field
- Regular live coaching with Kendra Cunov (founder of The Collective & The Fierce Grace Incubator) at a fraction of the cost
- New monthly teachings for every aspect of your life: Relationship, Family, Spirituality, Boundaries, Sexuality, Self-Love…
- Specific tools for integrating these teachings into your life
- In the words of one member: “A wise council of women to check in with whenever I need it.”
- Embodied practices that really work
- Personal coaching from Kendra within the Community Forum
- A space that truly welcomes & holds ALL of you
- More joy, tenderness & down-to-earth sharing than you even knew to want!
- An added bonus: When you join, you don’t have to wait until the next call to dive in! You get instant access to classes ranging from ‘Get In Right Relationship With Your Money’ to ‘Access The Wisdom of Your Body’ to ‘Create Your (Next) Year From the Ground of Devotion”, as well as replays of sessions taught by world-class guest teachers, and more!
What if I’m ‘not a group person’?
Here’s the thing — I’ve been working with groups for 20 years, and I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that our deepest transformation occurs in community. I also know that I could talk ‘til the cows come home about the power of community & it might all still go in one ear & out the other, so here is what the actual members of The Collective had to say:
“(Before I joined The Collective) I was scared about whether I fit with a community of women. I was scared that I was too weird and my experiences were too much and that I would be ignored. I worried that I was not advanced enough in my healing/self awareness journey to participate. I worried I would be ‘told’ something I wasn’t willing to hear or take action on. Fuck, it took me more than two years of stalking Kendra’s work and longing to engage more deeply to actually build the courage to dive in (first with Beyond Boundaries, then Relationship by Design, then the Collective).
What put my concerns to rest were a few things — one is that I understand and feel my energy in relation to things and everything about it screamed “YES!!!!!”, even through the fear. I knew it was exactly the right thing for me.
Then when I got started in the Collective, I wasn’t pushed to show up in any specific way, I watched and waited, feeling all the shit that was coming up and kept being offered the invitation. I watched how the women were all engaging, and I guess it allowed me to trust I was right and that I could participate. I felt the energy and connection of how everyone was showing up and honestly, I fell in love with the women and the group.“
“(The Collective) is filling a desire I didn’t really know I had (or at least not to the extent that I was consciously aware of). I feel grateful and fortunate that all the women who are members of the community are here and open to showing up as themselves in each moment and playing at their edges, wherever that may be in that moment.”
“Thank you for curating this community and holding the vision for a space that feels like the truth of how women can and do show up for each other. It is something that I feel has been culturally lacking in my life and which feels deeply nourishing to me.”
“I was surprised by how much I love the women who make up The Collective!”
Join The Collective
The Collective is a commitment to practice and growth — over time. It is not a ‘quick fix.’
The Collective meets you right where you are and works with you in a moment-to-moment way, as you make the shifts you want to make in any area of your life. It is a global community of women committed to living our lives powerfully, lifting each other up, and supporting every woman to live a wildly flourishing life.
Real, lasting growth takes time.
Weaving community takes time.
This is why we ask Collective members to make a minimum commitment of one season (or 3 months). Something magical & tangible happens when we make a commitment—we remove the energy leak of the recurring choice-point. When we commit, we put ourselves in the crucible of the container, and life arises to meet us there.
If you’re ready, we invite you to join us. Get started today for only $149/month with a 3-month minimum commitment.
“It’s a web of women like you’ve never met before. I have always been uncomfortable, uneasy, and unsure of women’s groups before. The Collective has changed that for me.”
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Frequently Asked Questions
What if I don’t know anything about embodied wholeness?
When are the live calls?
There are two 90-minute calls each month.
All calls* on are Thursdays. Since we are a global community, we do our best to accommodate women in different time zones.
On the 2nd Thursday of the month, we meet from 9:00-10:30am PT.
On the 4th Thursday of the month, we meet from 1:00-2:30pm PT.
Bonus guided embodiment practice sessions and guest teacher classes are scheduled with advance notice.
All calls are recorded and uploaded to your member site within 48 hours.
* There are a few calls every year that are on different days due to holidays, etc. The entire year’s calendar is available on The Collective member site, so you can plan ahead.
What are some of the themes you've covered during "Integration"?
- Authentic Radiance
- Bad Reputation
- Balance and Alignment
- Belonging
- Boundaries and Clarity
- Boundaries and Desire
- Breaking Spells
- Come Home to Go Big
- Container
- Foundation and Stability
- Planting Seeds and Intentions
- (Re)Birth
- Setting Intention – Through
- Embodied Desire & Devotion
- Stepping Powerfully Into the New Year
- Tending with Tenderness
- The Power of The Spider Queen
- The Wisdom of Your Body
- Wholeness and Fullness
You’ll have access to all of these as soon as you join, as part of our growing archive.
What if I can’t attend the live sessions?
The group calls are a place to receive regular live coaching with Kendra, and there are women in The Collective who get enormous value through the recordings & engaging in the Community Forum.
Is this only for female-born/cis-gender women?
I have worked with many gay, bi & queer women in the areas of pleasure, purpose & power over the past 20 years. These teachings and practices are for all of us!
Is this a group only for young(er) women, old(er) women, mothers, single women, etc...?
We have had women in their 20’s & in their 70’s. Gay, straight & bi women. Women from all over the USA, as well as women from Europe, South America & Australia. There are many mothers in The Collective, as well as many single women, and women who have no desire to become mothers.
I'm happily married/partnered. Is this program still for me?
One of the biggest challenges I have seen in the women I work with is not creating time for pleasure, personal practices, or to follow their true passions once they are in relationship. Your relationship(s) will suffer if you do not engage in this work, and your relationship(s) will thrive if you do!
How do I know if The Collective is right for me?
- You ‘hold’ so much for the people in your life, but don’t receive the ‘holding’ you need. You are ready to not have to do it all alone.
- You may have felt like you didn’t fit in with other groups of women, but you’re ready to shift that. You want to cultivate deeper connections.
- You believe your body holds wisdom even if you’re not sure how to access it (yet).
- You have a wild (and possibly ‘unreasonable’) vision for your life and the world, and are ready to be fully supported in that vision.
- You believe in honoring your natural cycles and seasonal rhythms (even if you haven’t always know how to).
- You want to feel fully expressed as a woman and embody your feminine expression, but you’re not quite sure how.
- You don’t know what your purpose is, you fear you might not have one, or you’re afraid to fully step into it because of the judgments of others or the changes it might require you to make in your life.
- You want to feel empowered — to set boundaries, tap into your truth, and make confident decisions about your life.
- You want to know how to feel true pleasure in your body.
- Your life feels like it’s missing the vibrancy you deeply desire, and you’re not sure what’s blocking it. You want to feel on fire for life!
- You welcome diversity, stand for equality and care about kindness.
- You’re ready & willing to let go of being ‘good’ in order to be YOU.
The Collective is a place for all womxn-identified humans, including transgender, from all walks of life.
We have had women in their 20s & in their 70s. Gay, straight & bi women. Married women. Single women. And women in ‘non-traditional’ relationships.
Women from all over the USA, as well as women from Europe, South America & Australia.
There are many mothers in The Collective, and women who have no desire to become mothers.
What if I'm 'not a group person'?
How much time should I expect to commit to The Collective?
There are 2 live 90-minute group calls each month, held on (or near) the New & Full Moons.
There is no obligation to attend every call, or to always be active within our vibrant global community-space.
You can never ‘fall behind’ & there is no need to ‘catch up’.
Many women remain longtime members of The Collective while periodically stepping away to travel or focus on other pieces of life, but the only women I have seen not get what they want out of The Collective are those that have not made space & time for the calls or the community.
This is not a space to ‘should’ yourself about the time & space you have available in your life; this is simply a call to be honest with yourself – and if you aren’t able to make the time, please don’t join The Collective.
One of the reasons there is a year-long commitment in The Collective, is because real community takes time. Real community means being seen & known. Real community means showing up for each other. Real community means we don’t always agree, but our love isn’t dependent on our agreement. Real community requires attention. Real community is knowing each other over time. Real community celebrates each other’s joys. Real community holds each other through challenges. Real community means you see my magic…and my warts!
I already feel overwhelmed. I’m not sure I need another thing ‘to do’...
This is a space to hold YOU.
About Kendra Cunov
Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women and couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication and full self-expression. She co-founded Authentic World and Fierce Grace, as well as The Embodied Relationship Training Salon (with John Wineland), and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relational work on the planet.
She works with organizations and leaders, as well as men, women and couples, who know that embodied presence, truth, connection and integrity are our truest access points to success – in business and in love.
“In this community there are others who see and honour me and what my potential is sometimes more than I do. I am both held in how I am feeling and experiencing things now and invited into a new experience and exploration at the same time. This level of trust in the truth of my ‘ANDs’ by others feels like I am being offered trust/knowing in my capacity and ability to move into even greater awareness than I sometimes can hold by myself. “
“If you looking for an amazing group of women, whole heartedly committed to a path of pleasure, embodiment, and authenticity…The Collective is for you.”
“I get a lot out of listening to the older recordings, when others share I almost always have an AHA moment.” — LS, new member
“{What I love most about The Collective is} The women!!! 🙂 And the space that’s created for us to be as we are. The words that come to mind is that we get to be real, like REALLY real and I get this sense that whatever I’m experiencing is valid. What I’m experiencing may or may not be validated but I am valid. There is space for me to have and share whatever I am experiencing. And it feels mundanely sacred.“
Still have questions? Email us at info@kendracunov.com