We’ve been sold a story about pleasure.
That it’s indulgent.
That it’s dangerous.
That it’s earned, gendered, selfish, or shameful.
But what if none of that is true?
What if pleasure is not a reward for good behavior—but a way back to our wholeness?
What if it’s not a distraction from life—but the very current that runs through it?
In this post, we’ll explore four of the biggest cultural lies about pleasure—and remember what’s actually true.
Lie #1: Pleasure is a Luxury
The culture tells us pleasure is a luxury.
Something that lives in the realm of ‘nice to have, but only available to some.’
Something some people ‘deserve’…and others do not.
Something to be put off until….
…after we’ve ‘earned’ it.
…we have a partner.
…we’ve done something (good enough) to deserve it.
THIS IS A LIE.
Truth: Pleasure is Your Birthright
When we put conditions on our pleasure, this disconnects us from ourselves, our creativity, our aliveness, and from Life itself.
Pleasure is not only for the wealthy, or the privileged.
Pleasure is essential.
Pleasure is our birthright.
Pleasure is available to everyone, in every moment.
Pleasure is for every body.
Lie #2: Pleasure is (Only) About Sex
We live in a culture that conflates pleasure with sex, and has led us to believe that both are sinful and cannot be trusted.
The culture says we need another person to feel pleasure.
Or that pleasure with another person is the only pleasure worth experiencing.
The culture tells us sexual pleasure we experience alone is shameful.
The culture tells us the pleasure we experience that doesn’t fit into the narrow definition of ‘sexual’ doesn’t count.
THIS IS A LIE.
Truth: Pleasure is the Beating Heart of Life.
The energy of pleasure is the same energy that creates the cosmos, turns the planets, and from which all life on earth arises.
Pleasure is the beating heart of Life.
Pleasure is creation energy.
Pleasure is joy made manifest through our senses.
When we turn away from pleasure, we lose touch with our life force.
When we lose touch with our life force, we lose connection with the very reason we are here.
Lie #3: Pleasure is (Only) for Women/Femmes/The Feminine
The culture teaches boys to avoid pleasure early & violently.
Boys and men are pushed to be highly sexual, and punished for being sensual.
Yes, women are also taught to fear & hide their own pleasure.
THIS IS A LIE.
Truth: Pleasure is for Every Body
All humans live in bodies.
All bodies are made to experience pleasure.
Our capacity to connect to pleasure is directly related to our creativity, which connects us to purpose.
This is equally true for men, males & the masculine — as for as for women, females, femmes, and the feminine — and for genderqueer, non-binary, trans, and every other variation of human identity.
Lie #4: Pleasure is Sinful
(or the personal growth version: We Only Grow Through Struggle/Suffering/Pain)
The culture tells us our simple pleasures are ‘wasted time’.
The culture tells us that idly enjoying is ‘the devil’s playground.
The personal growth industry teaches us to be suspicious of feeling good, of enjoying life, of our relationships being too easy.
The personal growth industry tells us we’re only ‘really growing’ when we’re suffering.
THIS IS A LIE.
Truth: Pleasure is Life and Life is Good
‘Real’ growth happens in pleasure AND pain; in joy AND sorrow.
Avoiding any part of our vast human experience -including avoiding, resisting, or ignoring pleasure- limits our growth.
God is not here to punish you for feeling good.
Neither Source nor the Universe deal in punishment & rewards.
Source herself IS the source of pleasure.
Experiencing pleasure is a form of connecting to Source.
The overculture, and systems that benefit from our disconnection from our bodies, the earth & life, wants ALL of us to avoid, repress & deny pleasure. Practicing experiencing pleasure is an act of rebellion & revolution against those systems & structures.
Join me for an opportunity to change your entire relationship with pleasure, and through that, with Life itself.
